Individuation, self-realization, self-actualization—are they dangerous Western myths? Why carry this shadow of becoming? Dissolve it. Integrate it.
“I want to be successful, smart, own that house, have a perfect partner, have a wonderful body.” The ego constructs an image, and when reality doesn’t align with the fantasy, you turn the whip on yourself.
Realize the un-realized self, and the endless chase for self made illusions(self made pictures) fades away. Something like that maybe.
The now gets clearer when you are not chasing yourself.